I was getting a manicure the other day and was reminded of how hard it can be to practice patience… While my nails were drying I thought of something that I had been meaning to tell a friend so I wanted to write it down or text them but if I tried to grab my phone, I risked ruining my perfectly manicured nails – obviously, not a choice! In this small moment, I was reminded of how liberating it can be to stop trying to control and just be. Most likely, it really can wait!
One of the many hats I wear at my job is to help write The Dailey Method Blog and each month, we have a word that we focus on. This past August, the word was patience and we came up with a few tips on how to practice patience. So given my recent reminder, I thought it was only appropriate to share these tips with you.
1. Pick the LONGEST line at the store and wait patiently for your turn.
2. Give someone a hug but make sure it lasts for 10 seconds. See a post here about the benefits of hugging.
3. Cook a meal… from scratch… and then savor every single bite!
4. Let someone go ahead of you in line at your local coffee shop. I know that may sound awful when you are jonesing for some java but that’s why this is a practice :).
5. Truly listen to someone and do so without interrupting. When your mind starts to wander towards “When that happened to me…” or “I know someone who…” just stop and remind yourself to listen. No opinions, no feedback, just listen.
6. Get rid of the phone. Whether that means leaving it at home, in another room or going to get a manicure so you have a few forced minutes without it. We often times grab our phone the second we are on our own (or unfortunately, even when we are with others) so give yourself the freedom from trying to multi-task and leave it out of sight.
7. Breathe. When you find yourself frustrated/upset/angry or you want to react to something, first take 3-5 deep breaths. You will be more grounded and you’ll have a moment to absorb what’s going on before you make any decisions or judgements. I try my best to do this when I find myself getting irritated or going into an unresourceful state (easier said than done, of course…) but it really does help. It forces you to stop for a moment and just be… which is what patience is all about!
Have a great weekend!